When we have some pain deep down in our souls, we want a quick fix. We do not want to go through the hard work of releasing the pain. We think that if we just fix the surface problems, all will be well. How mistaken we are! The problem is still there. It does not go away without some active release techniques used on them.
Likewise, what does that look like in our lives? It means breaking the denial by vocalizing our pain to a trusted friend. It means grieving over the loss of something in our lives. Even if the expectation was unrealistic, it has caused pain and we need to accept that fact.
It means claiming God's promises as ours:
Romans 8:1
Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
Hebrews 13:5b
He Himself has said, "I will never desert you, nor will I ever forsake you."
Jeremiah 31:3
The Lord appeared to him from afar, saying, "I have loved you with an everlasting love; Therefore I have drawn you with lovingkindness."
Let us look at the causes of our behaviours and attitudes.. Let us ask God to show us what is really going on down in our souls. Let us ask Him to show us where we have been wounded and need healing. He promises to show us. He wants to heal us more than we want it ourselves. He is the Great Physician. He heals our souls.
Psalm 139:23-24
Investigate my life, O God, find out everything about me; Cross-examine and test me, get a clear picture of what I'm about; See for yourself whether I've done anything wrong -- then guide me on the road to eternal life.
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